Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life and Rekindle the Romance

No matter how content you are with each other, every relationship comes to a point when everybody gets comfortable, falling into a routine. The result: sex element takes a dip, becoming scarce and underwhelming. 

Whether the reason is hormonal changes, stress, or simply the fact that you’ve been with the same person for so long, no amount of pillow talk or date nights will make you want to get close.

The good news is that when things get a bit monotonous in the boudoir, it’s possible to spice things up. A simple online trip to your favourite adult store can make a world of difference. Here are some easily enjoyable fixes to spice up your sex life and rekindle the romance.

Prioritise Foreplay

Everyone loves a good appetiser, and rarely someone ever objects to foreplay. Think of what you did when you first started dating. If you’re anything like other couples, you’ve probably pulled out all the stops to impress each other. But, as we become more confident in a relationship, we usually forget the hard work the impression part takes and underestimate the value of foreplay.

Aside from a hot quickie, intriguing foreplay should be mandatory every time, not reserved only for the early relationship stages. Take your time, go slowly, and tease your partner while describing what and where makes you both feel good. It creates the excitement and arousal required for astounding sex.

Biologically speaking, foreplay is a necessity: it helps women self-lubricate, which helps men maintain an erection. It also helps build a stronger emotional connection, leading to a climax.

Experiment with Sex Toys

Thanks to advancements and discoveries in materials, technology, and user design, adult toys have immensely evolved from the simple blow-up doll. From penetrating to pulsing to vibrating, modern sex toys are more realistic and satisfying, safer to use, easier to clean, and longer lasting. With the development of new polymer types, there’s a variety of premium quality sex toys, giving you better value for your money.

When entering a premium adult store, online or brick-and-mortar, take your time to investigate toys as you would cosmetics. You can do it alone and surprise your partner later. They would love that! Or, take your time to shop together.

Taken that shopping for sex toys is a quest for exciting goodies to fulfil your wildest fantasies, I bet you’ll get excited simply by searching through the products, imagining how you’ll use them later between the sheets.

Whether you decide on new tech-enabled sex toys, such as vibrators and auto-sucking masturbators, or abstract and artistic designs that pass as cheeky decorative pieces, you can’t get it wrong. It’s the ultimate way to expand your frontiers to explore and enjoy fantasy and fantasy-fulfilling. A sex toy acts somewhat like a third party but without emotional ties. So, toy up for a healthy relationship.

Don’t Underestimate the Power of the Lubricant!

Personal lubricants are no longer just a concealed solution for dryness. The sheer variety of lubes on the market today makes it simple and affordable to include lube play in your love dance.

Whether used for oral sex, foreplay, or teasing, flavoured lubricants are always a treat. While Japanese milky-white lube that resembles semen can add novelty and pleasurable sensations, minty or warming lubes can add a kinky visual kick.

Additionally, lubes are available in various formulations and ingredients to suit your preferences, whether for wetness, thickness, or even the components themselves (all-natural, organic, or vegan-friendly).

Although water-based lubes are common because they are simple to clean up, don’t let that deter you from trying silicone- or hybrid-based formulations. Trying new things is half the fun, after all!

Pretend to Be Someone Else

Your sex life can get a lot more exciting if you pretend that you and the other person are strangers out for a secret affair.

Adopting an alter ego and shedding your regular personality can help you lose some of your inhibitions and enjoy sex more freely, which is why this tip works a ton. You might get hot and bothered just thinking about your (fake) tryst.

Get Out of the Bedroom

Having sex in an unfamiliar setting can intensify your enjoyment and pleasure and help you spice things up in your sex life thanks to new textures, lighting, sounds, and smells.

Regardless of your marital or parental status, schedule a trip for just the two of you to leave town. No children, no stress, no obligations. Just the two of you, with a well-planned route to fire things up. Find a relaxing getaway spot for the weekend, such as a log cabin in the woods, a beachfront cottage, or a posh hotel in the city. Pack all of your favourite sexy items, including sexy lingerie, toys, whipped cream, and chocolate syrup. Go offline and give your sex life a full recharge.

Although hotels are a natural option, you don’t have to wait until your next staycation to engage in sex outside the bedroom. If you’re asking yourself: how can I spice up my sex life at home, think of switching locations inside your home. Plan having sex in different spots from those you’re used to. You can do it in the car, on the countertop in the kitchen, and on the couch in the living room.

Take It Slow

When making love, try to take deeper breaths. It may not seem like much, but it has a significant effect. Slowing down makes it easier for partners to focus on touch and movement, which results in a deeper connection. Tantric sex is a form of meditation that experts advise. If not sure how to start, try ordering a Tantric book first. It can be exciting just to open the package with your partner.

Place a full-length mirror next to your bed while having sex. Or do it while standing in front of a mirror in the bathroom or the closet. Watch your face, your lover’s expressions, and your bodies as they move together. Watching yourself while doing it can be very sexy.